Having this blog seemed so inevitable. Like probably many of you fellow fatties out there, I have been “fat” my whole life. Please don’t get me wrong, as self-deprecating as it may sound to call myself fat on the reg, this is not about playing the victim or pointing fingers. I’m fat, therefore I am. How Cartesian. It wasn’t until I was about to leave my hometown for New York City that I realized how much I’d hated myself, and how much potential to change and grow and love myself that I had. I started caring more about the clothes I put on in a way that I never had before. I stopped trying to squeeze into size large Abercrombie t-shirts or compromising and wearing Mens XL Hollister sweatshirts. Fashion became a part of my life, more than designers and labels and models and editorials: in a way that allowed me to finally feel confident. I mean duh I love fashion, fashion designers, I die, chic chic chic oh my GAHD glam fab. But please, I’m not trying to live out my every day by looking like a fat version of some Vogue spread. All I want is to wear what I want to wear, look great, and feel great. FUCK THE REST. As the title of this post says, “It doesn’t matter what you look like… throw some glitter on it honey, go dancing.” (This is a quote btw from Party Monster which if you haven’t seen it go do that right now it’s on Netflix until then you’re not allowed back.)
The most important advice I can give always is to simply DO YOU. Establish a “Fuck It” attitude. Stop worrying about the trends you should be following, what you see in the magazines, what rules you should stick to. THERE IS NOTHING MORE BASIC THAN DOING ANYTHING BUT YOU. Just because you’re fat doesn’t mean you need to shop exclusively in the Kohl’s Women’s section, limit yourself to Bermuda shorts in the summer, or wear those hideous tops that only come in big sizes you know the ones I’m talking about they’re always peach colored and have random words in illegible script on them. The purpose of my blog is to inspire young women of all shapes and sizes to stop doubting, stop being afraid to break rules, and be happy and confident in yourself. It’s the hardest thing to do and I do struggle with it every day. But trust that when you finally learn to make yourself look great, you feel great… and vice versa.